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Lavender
Friends
Club

Sun City Lincoln Hills

The Lavender Friends Club is a group of lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender
and those in friendship who reside in beautiful Sun City Lincoln Hills, California







2014 Lincoln Hills
Sun Senior News

January 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

LF is a social organization serving the LGBT community and those in friendship in SCLH. The specifics of most activities are announced to members through email. If you are interested in joining, please contact the members listed below for more information.

The past month was a joyous time of celebration with family and friends. This included a line dance practice at Gina’s house in preparation for the well-attended Sixth Annual Christmas Dinner & Dance. Jacquie and Nancy graciously hosted a Christmas Brunch to add to the good cheer.

On the business side, Jacquie, Nancy, and Rich met with the CCOC to update LF by laws. A January meeting is scheduled to elect new board members, and plan for the year. Upcoming events include a breakfast in January, game night and coffee in February, and a potluck in March.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net;
Richard Wong, wong-r@sbcglobal.net
Website: www.lavenderfriends.com



February 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

LF is a social organization serving the LGBT community and those in friendship in SCLH. The specifics of most activities are announced to members through email. If you are interested in joining, please contact the members listed below for more information.

The biannual business meeting held in January was well attended. Members caught up with holiday news about family, children, grandchildren, and friends. We were especially pleased that Richard was featured on TV’s Good Day Weekend in December sharing his jewelry technique of the Viking Weave in gold and silver wire. Samples of his art can be seen on www.differentstones.com and he will participate in Lincoln Hills Studio Tour on May 31st and June 1st.

Claudia presided as President, Paula as Vice President, and Nancy as Treasurer at the business meeting. Goals were reviewed and a social calendar was developed. We discussed the development of articles profiling members in Compass and Sun Senior News to help us get to know each other better and deepen community interaction. A Yahoo group was set up to enhance communication within the club. Volunteers are available to help with the computer setup.

Activities on the in the first quarter include a possible Super Bowl Party on February 2nd, a coffee get-together on February 10th, a potluck on March 8th, and breakfast on March 25th. Members can check emails and the Yahoo group for emerging movie, theatre, game night or other activities.

Several members represented LF at PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meeting, which is held every second Monday night in Auburn. PFLAG provides a safe and confidential place for LGBT people, their families and friends to talk and gain support in dealing with adversity in our society. Their website is www. pflagplacercounty.org.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net;
Richard Wong, wong-r@sbcglobal.net
Website: www.lavenderfriends.com


March 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. The specifics of most activities are announced to members through email. If you are interested in joining, please contact the members listed below for more information.

Members enjoyed conversation at both the Meridian Breakfast and Coffee at Kilaga in the last few weeks. We are looking forward to the 3/8 Potluck, 3/25 Breakfast, and a possible member hosted breakfast on 4/9. Please check your email and RSVP so that the organizers can plan appropriately.

A confidential data survey will be sent via email and available at the potluck this month. Kate will use it as resource for future Lavender Friends articles. This is to give her a broader understanding of the wealth of diversity and talent within our community.

Several members of Lavender Friends attend PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meetings, which are held every second Monday night in Auburn at the Sutter Auburn Faith Hospital at 11815 Education Street. PFLAG provides a safe and confidential place for LGBT people, their families and friends to talk and gain support in dealing with issues and adversity within the broader society. The people in the group come from many walks of life and are friendly and welcoming to visitors.

The format of the meeting is simple. In February, two confidential support groups, one for parents/grandparents, and another for transgender youth, met at 6 p.m. before the general meeting. At 7 p.m., the large group met and broke into four smaller units to discuss individual emerging issues and questions, resources, to provide individual support. Again, confidentiality was stressed, what was said within the group, stayed within the group. This was followed by the main speaker. The format and agenda of the meetings are posted on the website.

Previous speakers have talked about the struggle personal journeys as a LGBTQ person or the journey of straight family members finding a way to understand and support their child, grandchild, or other family member. Other past speakers also included the “It Gets Better” project from HP, the innovative programs to support LGBTQ youth and the wider community at Sierra College, a panel of high school students and advisors talking about their Gay Straight Alliance Chapters, and the LGBTQ Spiritual Ministry set up at St. Michael’s. Contact information is available on the PFLAG website along with available library material at www.pflagplacercounty.org.

For those who are trying to understand and support a child, grandchild or friend that is dealing with LGBT issues, please contact PFLAG. Dealing with these issues to keep families together is sometimes difficult, and sometimes a phone call could save a life.



Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net;
Richard Wong, wong-r@sbcglobal.net
Website: www.lavenderfriends.com


April 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. The specifics of most activities are announced to members through email. If you are interested in joining, please contact the members listed below for more information.

The St. Patrick Day’s Potluck was nicely organized and well attended. Invited guests included Kate Kendell and her partner Sandy Holmes. Kate is the Executive Director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), one of the leaders in the fight against Proposition 8 and other discriminatory laws and practices. She spoke to the group about her work in the struggle for civil and human rights of the LGBT community and their families through litigation, public policy advocacy, and public education. After a presentation charting the remarkable progress achieved since the 1970s, Kate took questions ranging from issues on elder law and bullying LGBT students within the school districts to questions on pensions.

Although marriage equality has been achieved at the federal level much work has to be yet to be done as the effects of these changes percolate through the federal and state systems of laws and codes. Issues needing more attention include immigration, continuing discrimination in rural areas, and specific issues faced by LGBT people of color, and those in poverty. More information on the NCLR can be found on their website at http://www. nclrights.org , Facebook.com/NCLRights or YouTube.com/NCLRights.

Future activities for Lavender Friends in the next two months include a coffee/breakfast potluck on April 9th, another possible breakfast on May 7th, and a BBQ on May 24th.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com
Website: www.lavenderfriends. com


May 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. The specifics of most activities are announced to members through email. If you are interested in joining, please contact the members listed below for more information.

Upcoming activities of interest include:
On April 30th new student registration opens at Sierra College. Two courses that may be of interest are Introduction to LGBT Studies on Fridays 9-12, and LGBT Film History on Monday and Wednesday from 3:30 to 5:30. Classes begin on August 25th.

The Sacramento Women’s Chorus Concert is on May 17th at 2 and 7pm at St. Mark’s United Methodist Church in Sacramento. The concert’s title is Connections: Songs of Love, Peace and Joy.

PFLAG meeting will be held at Sutter Auburn Faith Hospital on May 13th from 7-9 pm.

Please keep your calendars open for the Fall Celebration Dance on September 12th.
Be sure to check your email for updates on these events.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com
Website: www.lavenderfriends. com


June 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the LGBT community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. In the spirit of getting to know one another, I am interviewing members with questions inspired by Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York.

Carolyn has a passion for travel and learning. At the end of 43-year career as a registered nurse for labor and delivery in Kaiser Permanente, she continues to explore the United States in her RV as well as visits to Mexico, Germany, Italy, and other countries. She especially enjoys visiting her family. Her oldest son from her first marriage is an award-winning professional photographer and videographer. Another son and daughter were born out of a thirty-year domestic partnership. That son is a now a lawyer who acts as a legislative counsel, and her daughter is at the University of California at San Diego and will receive her Masters in Peace and Justice Studies with hopes of working with multinational corporations in those areas. Carolyn expressed great pride in their achievements and delights in the company of her four grandchildren.

Carolyn loved taking care of women in labor, witnessing the wonder of birth and the beginning development of the loving bond between mother and child. Over the years technology began to dominate the delivery room. Carolyn made a point to stay with the mother for the complete process. It was important to be there to comfort and encourage mothers through the pain as it transitioned to the joy of birth. She often cared for lesbian mothers assuring that they would find a compassionate face in the delivery room.

Now that she has retired, Carolyn enjoys creating media presentations for her church services, and taking classes through Coursera. org, which offers free non-credit college level courses from top-rated universities from all over the world. An upcoming course is “Aging Around the World”. She is interested in crewing on her brother’s sailboat. Life continues to unfold with exciting possibilities in her sixtieth decade, and Carolyn is ready to explore them all!

Check your email for upcoming events including 6/16 PFLAG, 6/21 Club Meetin, 6/23 Coffee, and 7/14 Breakfast.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com
Website: www.lavenderfriends. com


July 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the LGBT community in SCLH.

For the third year, PFLAG of Greater Placer County and Lavender Friends of Lincoln Hills have co-sponsored a scholarship program for graduating LGBT and Ally students from Placer County high schools. Recipients included two students from Granite Bay High School and one student from Rocklin’s Whitney High School. Awards were presented at the PFLAG Chapter meeting in Auburn, May 12.

Religion and the LGBTI community was the topic of discussion in the June PLFAG meeting with a panel of three religious leaders including a rabbi, minister, and priest. It is a sad fact that many in the community face loss of family members when they come out, often due to conflicting religious beliefs. The religious leaders on the panel discussed the varying interpretations of religious documents ranging from the “dictated by God” view, to seeing the documents reflective of the limited historical and scientific perspectives prevalent when they were created. The constitutional separation of church and state in the United States allows the evolution of laws supporting the civil rights of the LGBTI community, while the various religions move at their own pace.

The religious leaders highlighted how modern religious attitudes regarding slavery, the status of women, and minorities have changed in light of greater awareness and appreciation of diversity and expanded scientific understanding of what is truly normal. The reconciliation movement within several local churches underscores a more welcoming attitude towards the LGBTI population bringing families closer together. Further information is available on the PFLAG website at http://www.pflagplacercounty.org/ links-resources/religious-resources.

Upcoming events including PFLAG 7/14, Breakfast 7/21, and a Dinner/Dance of 9/12. Check email for other social opportunities like a possible game night or progressive dinner.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com
Website: www.lavenderfriends. com


August 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transsexual community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. In the spirit of getting to know one another, I am interviewing members with questions inspired by Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York.

Photo of Jacquie and Nancy Nancy Steiner and Jacquie Hilton celebrated their wedding anniversary in July, being able to marry in 2013 after being together for ten years. They moved from the Bay Area to SCLH nine years ago, and have found the community full of welcoming friends. Nancy has two children and five grandchildren, while Jacqueline has two children, four grandchildren, and one great grandchild. The combined family makes for warm holiday gatherings when they come to visit.

Jacquie grew up in the Fresno area, Nancy Steiner and Jacquie Hilton and counted many migrants from the Dust Bowl as her friends. Hearing stories from her friends about the impact of the Great Depression helped to develop a life long commitment to social justice. She first worked as a social worker for ten years before adding school psychologist to her resume. She often worked in Title I schools which had large populations of disadvantaged youth. Committed to dealing with special needs children and their families, she was also involved with crisis intervention when necessary.

After coming to Lincoln, Jacquie continued a life long interest in art with a concentration on drawing and oil painting. The creativity demanded by the art is engaging. When asked if she had one piece of advice gleaned from her years of service, she said “Love and accept yourself, and you will find it will be easy to love others.”

Upcoming events including 8/11 PFLAG, 8/16 Appetizer Potluck, 8/27 Coffee, 9/9 Breakfast, 9/12 Dinner/Dance, and a Potluck on 10/11. Check http:// www.lavenderfriends.com/ for more social opportunities..

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com


September 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transsexual community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. In the spirit of getting to know one another, I am interviewing members with questions inspired by Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York.

Photo of Jacquie and NancyNancy Steiner grew up in San Mateo in the family jewelry business. Her father started the business in the 1930s and moved it to San Mateo after WWII. She started working in the business as a teenager and later worked as a manager. Her son now has taken over the store. After her marriage ended, she met Jacquie Hilton ten years ago online and created a blended family that counts four children, nine grandchildren and one great grandchild.

Nancy struggled with a hearing impairment all her life. She developed an interest in computers and the Internet, which led to the creation of a web site design business that continues to this day. She made many friends over this medium, but was frustrated by the hearing limitation when meeting these friends in person. Refusing to be isolated or limited by this, 18 years ago she elected receive a Cochlear implant. The change was immediateand effective. As we conducted this interview her certified hearing dog, Gromit sat patiently by her side, while Jacquie’s cat Fussy groomed herself by the window.

Nancy continues creating and managing websites in SCLH. Her motto is “Learn something new.” When asked what was the most important she has learned from life, she said “You fall in love with the person, not gender.”

Upcoming events include PFLAG 9/8, Breakfast 9/9, Dinner/Dance on 9/12, Potluck 10/11, Coffee 10/20 and Breakfast 11/12. Check http://www.lavenderfriends.com/ for other social opportunities.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com


October 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transsexual community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. In the spirit of getting to know one another, I am interviewing members with questions inspired by Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York.

Darla Purdy was born in Portland, Maine to a family that settled there from Canada. Her father worked as a baker instilling in her a strong work ethic, initiative and a sense of humor. She eventually moved to southern California attending UC Riverside. Her son is an administrative law judge and her daughter-in-law is a teacher. She has two grandchildren, a girl soon to graduate high school and a boy studying astrophysics at UC Berkeley.

Her career has taken interesting turns included working as a body shop manager, which gave her a strong understanding of the challenges of the automobile business. Later on she served as a Staff Analyst in Riverside County, and did a bit of preschool teaching in a school that developed individualized curriculum to meet the needs of young children. Now that she has retired she has a small business in crafts. She especially likes refurbishing household items using steam punk themes. Her customers particularly like her flasks with sport team logos and artwork.

One of the things she enjoys about SCLH community is the sense of family. People are very welcoming. Her partner, Sandy, noted that some of Darla’s best qualities are that she is creative and shows empathy for others.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com


November 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transsexual community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. The Lavender Hearts Committee was created when the LF Club was first established to reach out to the community at large, and generate financial and volunteer support for organizations that support the LBGT community. Money has been raised through the SCLH Parking Lot sales, holiday cookie exchange fees, Progressive Dinner reservations, 50/50 raffle tickets sales, and Silent Auction Fundraisers; in addition, the committee has encouraged LF Club members to donate clothing, non-perishable food items, and personal items used to create themed-baskets that maybe raffled or auctioned.

Outreach activities have included answering telephones during a membership drive for KVIE, participating in fundraisers sponsored by organizations supporting the LGBT community, co-funding a third year of GSA high school scholarships awarded by PFLAG of Greater Placer County, Inc., conducting clothing drives, purchasing annual holiday meals for safe house residents and clients of Stand Up Placer, Inc., and donating food items to the Salt Mine.

Photo of gift basket The latest outreach effort is creating eight themed-baskets for raffle by the Sacramento Women's Chorus, Inc. during its upcoming concert "Masquerade". The basket themes included: Happy Hour, Pasta Perfection, Gardening Helpers, Chocoholic Delight, Home Movie Night, Gourmet Wine, Trader Joe’s Goodies, and Picnic Time. The raffle baskets will raise funds for the organization's operational expenses. The multi-diverse chorus membership exceeds 50 women; the costs of performances often exceed the revenues from ticket sales as the chorus makes ticket prices affordable to the general public, and at times, donates the entire ticket sale proceeds to local charities.

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com


December 2014
by Kathleen Mc Carthy

Lavender Friends is a social organization serving the LGBT community and those in friendship in Sun City Lincoln Hills. In the spirit of getting to know one another, I am interviewing members with questions inspired by Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York.

Photo of Robin Richie Robin Richie has a passion for music. After spending long hours as an elementary music teacher in a Rocklin district, she also serves as the conductor and artistic director of the Sacramento Women’s Chorus. www.sacramentowomenschorus.com
In five years she has developed the chorus from 18 to 70 members providing three major concerts, plus many special invitational performances during the year. One of her memorable achievements came after she heard “A Woman’s Voice” on Senator Barbara Boxer’s website which begins “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rocks the world.” She contacted the Senator who put her in touch with composer Marvin Hamlisch and lyricists Alan and Marilyn Bergman. They gave her permission to create an arrangement to perform in Sacramento. Sheet music now includes her name as arranger.

Robin and her spouse Dru love the beauty and ambiance of SCLH. They especially enjoy working in their garden that includes vegetables and a small orchard of plum, almond, mandarin orange, fig, lime, and other trees. Robin enjoys carpentry, painting, and recently became a certified Zamboni driver. (That’s the machine that smooths out the ice before the skaters begin performances.) Both Dru and Robin love to travel, and are fascinated with the Latin American cultures of Honduras, Belize, and Mexico.

I asked Dru what she thought was Robin’s best attribute. “She is gracious and encouraging with others, especially her students.”

Contacts:
Jacquie Hilton, jacquiehilton@starstream.net
John, then1947@yahoo.com




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